Women and men communicate differently

How to understand women:

-        emotional beings – they often speak expressing emotions and not logic (do not make sense logically)

-        non deterministic – their emotional state can be influenced by many and complex sources at any one time – therefore their emotional state cannot be completely –determined nor controlled at any one time (pond pebbles and leaves ) – results in inevitable emotional ups and downs no matter how happy her environment

-        relationship oriented – women feel fulfilled when they grow relationships and the most important one is the one with her romantic interest

-        desire affection: while they do enjoy good sex just as much as guys their desire for regular affection is symmetrical with guys desire for regular sexual satisfact

How to understand men:

-        logical beings – they often speak expressing logic and information, they do not habitually express emotions and feelings

-        deterministic – their emotional state can be correlated to the balance of the 4 areas

-        power and skill oriented – men feel fulfilled when their power,  skills or status increases one of these may be central to their lives

-        desire sexual satisfaction – while they do enjoy affection just as much as women their desire for regular sexual satisfaction is symmetrical to women’s desire for af

The vast majority of long term relationships do not evolve to a happy balanced state.

The feeling of love is a natural chemical cocktail that has evolved to help us with reproduction. Under the influence of this cocktail we are blind to defects and behave euphorically everything seeming perfect. The first time this occurs it can last up to 2 years.

It may occur later as well with different people but the duration is generally reduced each time.

The relationships that do survive long term transcend into a different kind of love – friendship, companionship, family - attachment.